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The Mark - Love

Sunday Morning Bible Study

August 11, 2013

Do people see Jesus? Is the gospel preached? Does it speak to the broken hearted? Does it build up the church? Milk – Meat – Manna Preach for a decision Is the church loved?

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Introduction

Jesus is more than a little concerned about what His followers are known for. 

We are His spokesmen.  We are His “ambassadors”.

(2 Co 5:20 NLT) So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!”

He’s concerned that we leave the right impression on people. 

He’s concerned that we leave the right “mark” on people.

The problem is that sometimes we are known for the wrong things.  Sometimes the “mark” we leave on people is the wrong “mark”.

Play That Will Leave a Mark video clip

The problem we have as Christians is that sometimes we leave the wrong “mark”, the wrong “impression” on people. Some people only know us for …

Who we “hate”

The Westboro Baptist Church of Topeka Kansas is known in the news by what they are “against”.  In 2011 they only had 40 members, yet they are well known in America.
In 2007, they had 71 members, apparently mostly from the large family of pastor Fred Phelps.  In 2011, they had grown to 40 members.  Yet this small group is now well known in America.
One of the things  they are famous for is their protests against homosexuals while picketing at funerals for servicemen killed in the line of duty.
Their website address is www.godhatesfags.com
Sadly, some people use this group to say that this is what Christianity is all about.
The world thinks that Christians are those people who hate gays, pedophiles, murderers, Hindus, Buddhists, Muslims, and atheists.

How we vote

Some churches have gotten quite involved in politics. Don’t misunderstand me – I think God calls us to speak up, to be “salt and light”.  As Americans we have the right, privilege, and duty to vote.
But sometimes we give the impression that Christianity is all about voting Republican.  Not so.

Doctrinal purity

It’s a good thing to make sure that you are following the truth of God’s Word as close as possible.
But sometimes we get a little too carried away in our search for truth to the point that if someone doesn’t believe EXACTLY like I believe, that they must not be a Christian.
Illustration
I was walking across a bridge recently. I spied this guy who looked like he was ready to jump off. So, I thought I’d try to stall him until the authorities showed up (or at least until I could get my phone out to take a picture).
“Don’t jump!” I said. “Why not?” he said. “Nobody loves me.” “God loves you,” I said. “You believe in God, don’t you?” “Yes, I believe in God,” he said.
“Good,” I said. “Are you Christian or Jewish?”
“Christian,” he said.
“Me, too!” I said. “Protestant or Catholic?”
“Protestant,” he said.
“Me, too!” I said. “What kind of Protestant?”
“Baptist,” he said.
“Me, too!” I said. “Independent Baptist or Southern Baptist?”
“Independent Baptist,” he said.
“Me, too!” I said. “New Evangelical/Moderate Independent Baptist or Conservative Independent Baptist?”
“Conservative Independent Baptist,” he said.
“Me, too!” I said. “Dispensational Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist OR Historical Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist?”
“Dispensational Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist,” he said.
“Me, too!” I said. “Pro-Disney Boycott Dispensational Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist OR Anti-Disney Boycott Dispensational Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist?”
“Pro-Disney Boycott Dispensational Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist,” he said.
“Me, too!” I said. “King James Only Pro-Disney Boycott Dispensational Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist OR Modern Versions Pro-Disney Boycott Pro-Life Unashamed Fundamentalist Dispensational Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist?”
“MODERN VERSIONS Pro-Disney Boycott Dispensational Premillennial Conservative Independent Baptist” he said.
Auugghh!!! You heretic!” I said. And I pushed him off the bridge.

As Christians, the “mark” we’re supposed to leave on the world is not “who we hate”, “how we vote”, or the unimportant minor doctrines we believe, but it is supposed to be how we love. He said,

(Jn 13:34–35 NKJV) —34 A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another; as I have loved you, that you also love one another. 35 By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”
We are supposed to love one another like He loves us.  He loved us enough to lay down His life for us.  That’s the mark we are supposed to leave on the world.

One of the problems we have is that we don’t always have a good idea as to just what this “love” looks like.

The Greeks had quite a few different words that we would translate as “love”, yet only one of these words is the one that Jesus used.

He didn’t use the word for sexual love. (eros)
He didn’t use the word that describes the love family members have for each other. (sturge)
He didn’t use the word connected to emotional warm fuzzies and friendship. (phileo)
The Greek word Jesus used was agape.

The Mark - 1Corinthians 13

Paul is the one who gave us the best definition of what that love looks like.

(1 Co 13:4–7 NKJV) —4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

:4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up;

:4  Love suffers long

suffers longmakrothumia – “long burning”

Perhaps it’s the idea of being willing to be “burned” for a long time. 
We usually translate it as “patient”. It is a word that is used specifically in relationships with people.
It is being patient with difficult people.

Illustration

There is no greater example of patience than that of God's patience towards His people.
When God first delivered His people from Egypt, He warned them that if they disobeyed His commandments He would have to punish them. (Deut. 28:15)
At first you might think, “Boy, does God have a short fuse!”
But when you examine history, you find that God between the time when God gave them the warning until the time when the big “time out” came was 900 years.

Some people are just difficult to get along with.  It seems they are completely insensitive as to how they treat others.

Play Monty Python Rude Man clip
What makes things worse is that sometimes the “rude” person actually goes to the same church as you do.

When we talk about not being able to “put up” with a person any longer, I wonder what would happen if God had our measure of patience.  The very reason Jesus has not come back to judge this world yet is because of patience:

(2 Pe 3:9 NLT) The Lord isn’t really being slow about his promise, as some people think. No, he is being patient for your sake. He does not want anyone to be destroyed, but wants everyone to repent.

Amy Carmichael was a gal from Ireland who went off to be a missionary in India around 1900, serving there for 55 years.  She wrote,

“If I have not the patience of my Savior with the souls who grow slowly; if I know little of travail (a sharp and painful thing) till Christ be fully formed in them, then I know nothing of Calvary love.”
The Calvary she speaks of isn’t Calvary Chapel, but the cross at Calvary where Jesus died for us.

:5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

:5 thinks no evil

thinkslogizomai to reckon, count, compute, calculate

This is an accounting phrase of entering an item into a ledger so it won’t be forgotten. 
It’s about keeping track of when people hurt you.

This comes out when you argue.

If you start pulling out old laundry lists of things the other person has done over the last two centuries, you’ve missed the point here.  When phrases like, “You always do that,” show up, then you’ve been keeping track of the wrongs you’ve suffered.

Instead, love is quick to forgive.  Paul wrote,

(Eph 4:32 NKJV) And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
The word translated “forgiving” here is literally the word for “grace”.  We ought to be showing “grace” to each other because God has shown “grace” to us.
Play Porcelain Unicorn clip

Some of us aren’t like that little Jewish girl who grew up.  We hold grudges a long time.  If that German boy ever came around our house, we’d either smack him in the face, or we wouldn’t answer the door at all, even if he came bearing a gift.

We make lists of people who have offended us.  We develop our lists of who is “safe” and who is not “safe”.  We need to learn what grace means.

Illustration

Hole in the pocket
The story goes of the happy man who has two pockets.  One has a hole in it and the other is carefully watched that no hole develops in it.  Everything that he hears of a hurtful nature - insult, cutting remark, gossip, unclean suggestion, or any such thing - he writes on a piece of paper and sticks it into his pocket with the hole.  Everything which he hears that is kind, true, and helpful, he writes on a piece of paper and puts it in the pocket without the hole.
At night he turns out all that is in the pocket without the hole, goes over all that he had put into it during the day, and thoroughly enjoys all the good things that have come his way that day.
Then he sticks his hand into the pocket with the hole and finds nothing there, so he laughs and rejoices that there are no evil things to think about.  Too many of us reverse the other, putting the evil things in the pocket without the hole so that we can mull over them again and again, and the good things in the pocket with the hole so that they are quickly forgotten.

Love doesn’t keep track of wrongs suffered.  It lets them slip through the pocket with the hold in it.

:6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth;

:6  rejoices in the truth

truthaletheia – from a + lanthano – “not hidden”

Love isn’t happy when things are hidden.  Love isn’t happy when problems are disguised.
Love is happy when things are uncovered, even when they are difficult things.
Love is happiest when we are learning to deal with what has been covered up.

Sometimes I have the idea that if someone loves me, they won’t point out something in my life that needs changing.

But then I’m not rejoicing in the truth.

Jesus loves us just the way we are.  But Jesus also loves us too much to leave us where we are.

He wants to challenge us with the truth.  He wants us to learn to confront the things in our lives that need to change.
One of the things I’m trying to pray for every day is that I be open to criticism.  I pray for that because I don’t like criticism.

This is the balance to “patience”.

Being “patient” doesn’t mean we ignore each other’s need to change.  Patience requires that we put up with each other, but “rejoicing in the truth” requires that we also learn how to speak up.

Solomon wrote,

(Pr 27:6 NKJV) Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.

Illustration

Minnesota Viking offensive lineman Korey Stringer died from heatstroke during football conditioning drills in 108 degree heat.  Now NFL teams are offering their players a “radio pill.”
Teams pay between $30 and $40 apiece for the pills, which last 24 to 36 hours.
A crystal sensor in each pill has a frequency geared to the player’s body temperature. When the player’s body temperature rises, so does the frequency.
A trainer punches in a player’s jersey number and waves a digital device in front of him to determine if the player is “getting too hot” and needs intervention.
Like athletes who don’t know they have overextended themselves and need intervention, Christians can stray from God and be oblivious to their spiritual condition. We need others to keep us accountable.
Jim Corbett, "Core Matter," USAToday.com (8-10-05); submitted by Rick Kauffman, McDonald, Pennsylvania

Love rejoices with the truth.

:7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

:7 endures all things

endureshupomone – to “remain under”

It means to be patient and bear up courageously when hard times hit. Not just waiting the situation out, but being a victor in the midst of conflict.

Love doesn’t quit on people or on difficult circumstances.

This is why agape love is the most important component in a marriage – you don’t quit on it.

When the going gets tough, the tough stay put.

This is what our relationships in church ought to be all about.

Relationships at church aren’t going to be nice and sweet.  There will be times when they are filled with heat and pressure.

Scientists say that the way diamonds are formed is through intense heat and intense pressure.

For your faith to become valuable, you have to “remain under”.  You have to learn to stand the heat and the pressure.

Love endures.  Love sticks it out.

What kind of mark do you leave on people?  Are you leaving the right kind of mark?